The age old image of a man on bended knee proposing marriage to the woman of his dreams is ingrained in American culture. However, just as many American ideologies have changed throughout the years, so too has the implications that men must be the ones to propose to women. While some couples prefer to stick to traditional proposals, others are open to the idea of women proposing to men. After all, why should men have all the fun of popping the question at just the right moment? Rather than waiting for the man to do the job, many women are taking matters into their own hands. According to a poll taken by the Associated Press-WE TV, nearly 50 percent of all single women who wish to get married in the future say that they would be open to proposing marriage.
Why This Turn of Events?
America has gone through a significant transformation over the past 50 years. It isn’t uncommon these days to see couples living together and even having children together before they get married. Women are also getting married at an older age, and are more financially independent. Now that one-third of the states in the nation recognize gay marriage, it is more common for women to propose to women and men to propose to men. All of these changes support the fact that people simply follow their own path when it comes to proposal.
Considerations When Popping the Question
While women may not be as familiar as men when it comes to proposing marriage, there are some things to consider before asking the big question. These include:
- · Make Sure the Time is Right: Women should use their instincts when determining whether or not the time is right to ask the life-changing question. It isn’t a good idea to propose marriage during a time when the man is stressed about a situation, changing jobs, during a move, etc. Men have biological clocks as well. A Pew Research Center study found that men are usually ready to tie the knot around age 28.
- · Feel out the Situation: Women are encouraged to discuss the thought of marriage casually with their significant other before asking for marriage. It’s better to get a general understanding of where the man stands on the topic, before proposing and being left with heartache and disappointment.
- · Be Creative: Although women may feel that they are the sentimental and romantic ones in a relationship, the majority of men also like to be romanced. Ladies should find a way to propose to their man that they know will make a lasting impression. After all, proposals are a once-in-a-lifetime event.
- · Find the Right Ring: When women are selecting a ring for their soon-to-be spouse, they should make sure that it fits their unique personality. Whether the man likes diamond stones, platinum matte or a simple gold wedding band, it should grab his attention and be something that fits his sense of style. Some women prefer to propose with a simple band and then exchange it for a more elaborate wedding ring on the big day.
Times have certainly changed. America has transformed into a land where gender roles are more obscure. The concept of women proposing marriage may not be so far-fetched after all.